How pornography ruined a generation.

“I stopped watching porn for two reasons basically; the first one was that porn brought so much anger and violence into my private fantasies. And these were anger and violence’s that were not there originally to begin with. And I did not want it for me anymore. This was not me and, I decided to put an end to it. Easier said than done … I got it later. The second reason was that I came to realize that only by watching porn I take part in creating a demand for filmed prostitution because that’s what porn really is: a filmed prostitution. ‘Porne’ stands for prostitute, ‘graphia’ stands for documentation. And prostitution was nobody’s childhood dream; it is always a result of trouble and distress. Porn is a genre and it is all about male domination of women, sub ordinance of women. Not only as a sexual practice but as a way of being as a genderial hierarchy in this world”, says Ran Gavrieli who lives in Tel Aviv and works with youth and adults all over the country in sex and gender studies.

We were playing table tennis in our college in the summer of 2015 when one of my friends broke me the news that the Indian Government had banned pornographic websites in the country. My shot went straight to the top of the light bulb - perhaps which is all that I have to call it as my legacy that I left in the college - the ball maybe still there stuck between the ceiling and the bulb, a reminder of how ecstatic the three of us felt at the news.

That day I wrote an essay on how good and revolutionary decision it was only to find that me, the cocky eighteen years old kid had no supporters. The government was called a ‘Banana Republic’ and one particular speaker, who thinks of himself as the spokesperson and champion of the youth and who has written numerous perverted sex stories under the garb of art and creativity, was quite upset and vocal about the decision. And who he was? None other than the role model of Indian youth, Mr. Chetan Bhagat.

It didn’t take me a Ran Gavrieli to make me understand that pornography was legalized prostitution. I had been quite vocal about it even with my friends whom I repeatedly used to say that it is morally, ethically and in every other possible way wrong. 

That night I stopped writing about it, deleted the whole essay and went to sleep. Perhaps I didn’t have enough courage to take on the liberal left who put up arguments like, ‘You do not have any right in deciding what one chooses to do in the four walls of their room’. This coming from a women and the looks of her was absolutely appalling, was she not aware how the male dominance of women is documented in the videos? What happened to the liberalistic feminist who was a champion for women rights? That night, I knew that the country will never be safe until and unless we stopped the minds who propagated the theory of ‘free will’ as a tenet of democracy. No, as a commerce student even I knew that ‘free will’ was nothing but the foundation stone to anarchy! Free will is a myth perpetrated by the millennial generation who absolutely have no will to fight for the cultures and reform them and make sure the grand Indian civilization doesn’t fall back on the lines of the great ‘Greek’ and ‘Egyptian’ and ‘Persian’ way which have been unfortunately wiped off from the face of the earth. As one of my friends put it yesterday, ‘charity begins at home’ and to foster a culture of freedom to choose and do what you feel like before attaining maturity is akin to the philosophy of fostering the criminal minds who get the notion of perpetrating rape and forcing themselves upon drunk or apparently revealingly dressed girls to invite harassment which stems from the videos that presumably shows women enjoying being ‘choked’!

If the liberals were really worried about the rape culture they would have been vocal about banning such a thing as porn which is not even a necessary evil. If crying about ‘patriarchy’ could solve rape, it would have been already or if by plastering sanitary napkins across the whole campus help fight patriarchy, while millions of girl do not have access to it and cannot attend school, then we would have already. Sadly, the feminism dialogue got hijacked into whether ‘I can come home at 4 or not’ or ‘How many guys I sleep with’ or ‘Choosing to have an affair outside marriage’ rather than addressing the situation of growing ‘rape’ or ‘lack of education among women’ or ‘sanitation facilities’ or in creating a forum which can help them get informal jobs without education to sustain themselves and become independent. This is just the sort of thing which derailed feminist movements in the western world particularly in the United States to such an extent that the possibility of men and women shooting each other won’t be a surprise within the next ten to fifteen years. Crying patriarchy, rape culture and assuming that every other guy out there is a rapist is just the sort of thing which is nothing but a slander against men. 

Going back to the original point, the liberal left doesn’t provide solution but create anarchy. How do we stop rape? If patriarchy was behind all rapes in India, I wonder how the rape statistic in the universities across the United States is frightening, how is that one out of five students in MIT is raped, are women subjected to less freedom and choices when it comes to the United States and if that is so, please explain to me how? Or if an absolute slandering sham interview of a lunatic and unstable person in the documentary ‘India’s daughter’ is going to be the point of discussion as the reason behind rape in India I wonder if we can solve it ever. Perhaps we can, by going the Saudi way. Be in a burkha, cannot drive, cannot get out of the house without a male member accompanying them. How will rape happen? Perhaps the liberal left wants it here in India! 

I am not a champion in mind reading or at best understanding the thought process behind raping somebody. Perhaps, I concede that patriarchy is to an extent responsible for it and I am willing to stand beside you and fight against it but when you get on the television and talk about how ‘free will’ should be encouraged and how the Indian populace is a meek victim of ‘banana politics’ and that nobody should decide what one chooses to do in the hidden confines of their rooms that is the exact kind of narrative which fuels and emboldens rapists to go ahead and exercise their free will. They cheer every moment that these liberals are on the television. As I had read somewhere, ‘If you are walking bare feet in the middle of a dense jungle and a snake comes out of the bush and bites you – it is not the snake which was at fault, it definitely was you who was at fault and the saddest part is that deadly poisonous snakes foster in our society, too, lurking at every possible opportunity to bite you no matter how educated and moral they are, they simply are men who are extremely or perhaps the most vile of the creatures on Earth’. My solution is to give women guns and train them to use it. Or castrate the rapists, in full view of the public, not kill them. Now, this is what amazes me, the liberal leftists who until now were crying patriarchy and carrying out slander against men oppose the idea of ‘capital punishment’ and call for releasing the rapists after five years.

A twelve year old getting access to pornography isn’t ‘free will’ but rather emboldening the child from a very young age that the women like to be ‘submitted’ and ‘choked’ and treated roughly in real life too just like what the videos stand for. This sort of ‘free will’ will destroy our future generations to come because I pretty much believe that the current liberalistic generation doesn’t have what it takes to raise a child with ethics and responsibility and even if they did the kind of resources available in today’s world will always hinder the process. 

‘Think about your child,

imaginary if it may be,

think about your daughter,

are you the kind of man 
the type of which

with whom you want her, to be?’

STOP PORNOGRAPHY. STOP PERVERSION.